The Lord isn’t tired of you.
If He hasn’t tired of me, then I know He isn’t tired of you.
Don’t we sometimes assume He is, though?
I apply human attributes to God and figure He must want to respond to me as I want to respond: grabbing me by the shoulders, slightly shaking me, and telling me to snap out of it. Or something along those lines, sometimes more or less intense.
He is unfailingly patient. God is able to endure our imperfections better than we are. Where we can be short-tempered and over hasty, God is slow and long-suffering. I think I am a fairly patient person, but at times I am the most impatient with myself.
He waits for us.
It is a struggle to extend that same act of kindness to myself. To wait for my heart to catch up, to wait for my mind to grasp the concept, to wait for my body to gain the strength. We want it right now and we think we should be able to conquer all now. Sometimes, though, we need to accept that we are in a specific place. Instead of being angry with my heart, I can acknowledge where it is struggling and be patient with it. Instead of frustration over what my body can’t now accomplish, I can see the difficulties and move forward gradually.
The heart is probably the most difficult for me to wait for. I want it to quickly recover or never get wounded. The Lord, in His inscrutable wisdom, gave me a heart that is very tender. And life can be pretty rough on such a heart. Having a tender heart isn’t a coveted aspect in our culture. Instead, we are taught to not care what others think, to do our own thing, and to take whatever doesn’t kill you and let it make you stronger. But sometimes it just hurts. So I find myself fighting against the desire to shield my heart behind indifference or coldness. Or I use my best-learned defense: sarcasm.
I will fight, nearly to the death, in defense of sarcasm being a valid sense of humor. When used in the right situations, I think it is fantastic. However, I will admit that I use it to shield my little heart all too often. If my heart can’t handle the pain of honesty or sincerity, it will hide behind quick remarks and witty comebacks. In the moment, it is a fight or flight instinct and I guess I choose both: fly away with the tender heart and fight with words of steel. I know that it will not help my heart, but sometimes the conditioning takes over with little regard to what I should do.
The goal is to tell myself, “Trish, today you will not hide your hurt behind sarcasm. You will be sincere and meaningful in your words. And you, impatient one, will be patient with your own heart. It is a gift.” Perhaps, someday, I will listen to myself.
I need to be reminded that God sees me in a way that is different than I would initially imagine. In Isaiah 43: 4-5a, God speaks to Israel of a love that is unsurpassed by any other. It can be helpful to remember that this covenantal love also extends to us today.
Because you are precious in my sight, and honored, and I love you, I give people in return for you, nations in exchange for your life. Do not fear, for I am with you…
He is present, long-suffering, patient, and waiting for you. Not for you to drag your feet, but for you to let all the many conflicted parts of yourself come together. To wait for your heart to catch up to where the situation requires it be and to not be frustrated that it isn’t there yet. To remind the head that there is more to life than what makes complete sense. God is working in the midst of your broken chaos right now and He isn’t letting it stop Him from doing what needs to be done.
Though He is moving forward in your life, He isn’t leaving any part of you behind. Because despite all of it (the situations, the emotions, the problems, the pride, etc.), He isn’t tired of you.